La Veuve
a blog about grief

Why blog about grief?

The word for widow in French is veuve. I chose this name for my blog because France is my favorite country and because I recently became a widow. I like to tell people that becoming a widow is like being granted membership to a club with strict entrance requirements that I had no interest in joining.  

From the moment my husband was diagnosed with cancer, it felt like my entire life began to dissolve before my eyes. Through this blog, I hope to document my journey from the anguish of grief -- hopefully -- to a place of healing. I hope that sharing my story will show others that grief can take different forms, shapes, and sizes and they're all okay. In fact, we know that no two people's experience will look the same. Additionally, I'm finding that there are a lot of overlaps between what I feel now as a grieving widow and what I've felt at other points in my life and have concluded that as a society, we don't talk about grief enough. ​

This site is about grief so yeah, it'll probably be sad at times. Maybe that's exactly why we don't talk about grief - because nobody wants to be a downer. If I know one thing, it's that I either deal with my grief now or I'll deal with it later but I'm not going to get away with ignoring it. In fact, I know that my ticket to healing will come from stepping into it and talking about it.​ I hope this blog helps open the conversation about grief and all the forms it can take and through this process I can get a little bit closer to healing. Maybe my words and my experience will help others in their journey too.